On my desk is a candle. I use it as a prayer tool. As I light it each day I repeat a prayer. It reminds my soul of who I am and what I am about in this place. They are the same words every time but they hit me as if they are a new thought… every time. That’s probably because part of the prayer is my personal commitment. It’s just a candle flame, but it’s more.
I found a great source of Candles – Quickcandles.com. Not only do they live up to their name for being “fast” but they also deliver some of the best candles I’ve ever found. They burn almost down to nothing and I’ve had a couple do that. And they burn without any incense. It’s just a candle flame… but there’s something better.
There have been times when I’ve reached over to the candle on its stand during counseling sessions. I’ve held it before the person or couple I’m counseling and I’ve talked about blowing out the flame. I think of the flame as trust. It’s just a flame until it is blown out.
Trust is like a candle flame that gives light to all that are in the room. It provides guidance, assurance, strength of easy movement, comfort and even a gentle warmth. When we are in relationship we find that trust builds a security within us that says we can just move and not think through everything. We have an assurance that what we expect will be there will be there when we return or simply turn around.
I’ve lifted the candle up to teenagers who have been joyriding and can’t see what the big deal is. I’ve lifted the candle up to partners in businesses, to bosses and employees. I’ve lifted the candle up to husbands or wives. I’ve lifted the candle up to parents and to other pastors and to young adults and to elderly and to church leaders. I’ve lifted up the candle and blown it out in front of each of them.
It’s only a candle flame until it is gone and then it is this very large thing that will never be again. That’s trust isn’t it? It’s as fragile as a candle flame. For its size it can do amazingly good things, but when it is gone we don’t ever get it back and suddenly its true import, size and strength are felt. The flame that was there, once gone, is completely gone. To get flame again, one must start from the beginning and it isn’t like just pulling out our butane and relighting it. The flame that is added to the candle in our souls and called “trust” must be rekindled from scratch.
I’ve lifted the candle up to all sorts of people and every morning in my office I lift it up to myself and light it and say my simple prayer and something takes hold of my insides. And then it says, “All right now. Do it.”